Life's Three Fires
A reflective guide for understanding yourself, others, and the space between.Life’s Three Fires is a grounded and humanistic guide for anyone who wants to understand themselves more deeply, build healthier relationships, and reconnect with what truly matters.Written by George Fortune, an integrative humanistic counsellor with more than a decade of lived and clinical experience, this book introduces a simple visual metaphor that brings clarity, compassion, and meaning to your inner and relational world.At the heart of the model are three fires:The Self Fire, Others Fire, and Shared Fire.Together, they reveal how you support your own well-being, how you relate to others, and how your relationships grow, strain, or flourish.Drawing on humanistic psychology, attachment theory, and the work of Adler, Rogers, Bowlby, and others, this guide helps you explore:- What fuels you and what drains you.- How boundaries protect you without becoming rigid.- How communication strengthens connection.- How unmet needs create imbalance, conflict, or distance.- Why some relationships feel safe and others feel overwhelming.- How to build connections that feel mutual, respectful, and alive.Each chapter blends theory, lived examples, and reflective exercises that help you understand your patterns without judgement. You will learn how to tend your own fire with care, respond to others without losing yourself, and create shared spaces that feel warm, steady, and genuine.This book is ideal for:- People seeking clarity and self understanding.- Anyone trying to make sense of their relationships.- Counsellors, coaches, and educators needing a simple visual tool.- Couples wanting more honesty and connection.- Readers who appreciate practical, compassionate psychological guidance.Life’s Three Fires is not a programme to follow or a promise to fix. It is a reflective and deeply human model that helps you understand yourself in real moments, with real people, in real life.It invites you to pause, breathe, and discover what already burns within you.
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About the Author
With over a decade of experience, George Fortune is a humanistic counsellor and writer based in Weston-super-Mare. He works with a wide range of individuals and is particularly interested in how people relate to their inner self. His practice is rooted in humanistic psychology, with a focus on self-concept, congruence, self-actualisation and the internal conditions required for meaningful growth. He works with clients to explore how they understand themselves, how their experiences have shaped them and how they can move forward in a way that feels aligned with who they are.Across his work, George has seen how people develop when they reconnect with their inner experience and build a grounded understanding of themselves. This perspective informed the development of the Life’s Three Fires model and continues to shape his writing and therapeutic approach.